When parents support each other, everyone learns something. This is the underlying message behind a local parent support group facilitated by Windham residents Katherine Lydon and Nicole Schmid.
The
group is open to all parents but has a particular focus on special education,
and many of the people who attend have children with special needs. A year ago
Lydon and Schmid, who each have a child with Autism, attended a six week
special education class that RSU 14 had set up with the Maine Parent Federation.
That class was helpful to both women, and they wanted to extend the experience
and set up an ongoing system of support for parents in the area.
Lydon
and Schmid began the group by reaching out to the other parents who had taken
the class. From there, they have expanded primarily through word of mouth. “Every
time we have the chance, we tell people about the resource,” said Lydon.
The
meetings are set up to have a specific topic of discussion each month with
topics ranging from IEP’s to Internet safety, with much more in between. Some meetings
focus on issues specific to parents with children who have disabilities, and
others apply to any child. This month, for instance, the speaker is Officer Matt Cyr, who
will present information on drug abuse among school aged children.
Some
months the topic is narrower, with an emphasis on special needs. In May, for
instance, Ann Long from the Maine Parent Federation will talk about transitions
to and from high school and the resources available for kids with developmental
delays or specific disabilities. “We’re trying to give parents a heads up as to
what might be coming up ahead and how to prepare for that,” said Schmid. “It’s
all about knowledge, and transitions are really scary,” she added.
The
support group is also a great place to bounce ideas off other parents, and see
what information they might have to offer. “It’s so amazing what you can learn.
You don’t think of a certain avenue when your child is struggling, and someone
else who has gone through a similar thing says ‘Have you tried doing this?’ That information can change your world,” said
Lydon.
There
are approximately 30 people on their support group list, but attendance varies
by month. “When new people come in, you just see the relief on their face, that
there’s somebody who understands how much of a struggle this can be if you
don’t have anyone to talk to,” said Schmid. “We’re all in this together. Everyone
needs someone to talk to,” she added.
Parents
with children of all ages are welcome, said Lydon. They have resources available
on a wide range of disabilities and topics. The monthly discussions are chosen
based on feedback from the group about issues that may be challenging them.
The
group is intended to offer support to any parent who needs it, from any
community. “I just want people to know we’re here,” said Lydon. She said she
often hears from friends about people who have a child with a new diagnosis who
don’t have any idea where to go or what to do. “With the support group you can
come, you can cry,” she said. “It’s okay. We’re here, we understand.”
“It’s that friendship circle you always hear
about,” Schmid added. “We all get it that our kids are going to have a
different struggle than a typical child. Everybody has struggles, but theirs is
going to be a little bit different because it might be a communication thing,
or a physical disability – it’s something that you’ve got to make a special plan
for. If people can come to meetings and just share the good things and the bad
things, it makes all of us grow quite a bit,” she said.
The
parent support group meets on the third Thursday of every month at the Windham
Public Library. Meetings are typically from 7 p.m. to 8 p.m, but occasionally
begin earlier if the presenter needs extra time. The upcoming meetings on April
17th and May 15th will begin at 6:30 p.m. Meetings are
free and open to the public. For more information, or to RSVP to a meeting,
contact Katie Lydon at lydon_katherine@yahoo.com or Nicole Schmid at
nicole_boosh@hotmail.com.